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Sunday July 31, 2005

"the internet is weak, yo"

Jenn has been contemplating leaving her blog behind (much to my chagrin) and ended her last two posts with the catchphrase I quoted above. The internet is weak, yo.

Every blogger eventually gets to this point in the road, when they consider dropping their blogs. Sometimes it's because life gets in the way of updating it regularly... I know how that feels, considering how crazy busy I've been lately.

Other times, though, bloggers get frustrated with how their blogs change their lives in undesirable ways. Jenn wrote that she was frustrated her friends were reading her blog rather than dialing her cell... a common irritation pervading the blogosphere. That begs the question:

Is blogging really a good way to keep in touch with people?

I use my blog in part to keep my friends up on what's going on in my complicated little mind, because honestly, I don't do a very good job of telling them in person. As a reader, I visit other people's blogs to get the daily scoop. And like Jenn, I've got friends whose voices I don't quite remember, yet whose browsers visit me regularly. Does reciprocal blog reading really constitute a relationship?

I had long believed that blogging helped me to connect to people, but is blogging just another high-tech tool for keeping us isolated? I don't know, but it gives me another reason to rethink the purpose of writing all of this stuff. You know... all that why am I here business, without the metaphysical/spiritual implications.


Funny you should blog about people closing their blogs. Guess who's going next? Yup. Just actually have to update the site to say so. :P

Courtney on August 1, 2005 12:55 AM

Not you too!!!

What is going on? Why is everyone leaving their blogs all of a sudden? Jen Lemen also left hers recently, and I'm not happy. What am I going to read?

Drina on August 1, 2005 08:49 AM

You can read mine!!!! My blog is here to stay. I'd rather write about my life than tell friends about it.

LizU on August 1, 2005 02:12 PM

Hi Drina! Thanks for your thoughts. To me, it just seems a selfish thing. I write on my weblog what's going on with me, how I'm feeling, etc, because it's a great way to keep people updated with what's happening with me. HOWEVER, friends will read my weblog and know what's going on with ME, but won't be in touch with me, so I have no clue what's going on with them. But they feel like we ARE in touch since they know what's happening with me. I just found out that one of my friends is dating someone (for the last 6 months) and I had NO IDEA and when I talked to her about it she was surprised because she thought I knew...she reads my weblog, so she feels like we're in touch. It's sort of frustrating! And then there are other friends who read my weblog, but never return my phone calls or emails. It doesn't seem fair because they can find out what's going on with me, but I can't do the same for them. And that makes me not want to blog because it doesn't feel fair that they have the priviledge of being involved in my life.

I guess blogging is a good way to keep in touch with others, but it's one sided. If you want people to know what you are doing/thinking, then it's awesome. It just doesn't seem fair. But, I'm RAMBLING now....maybe I'll just leave comments instead of blogging. :)

I am busy in NYC, and barely blogged, or only blogged when I was upset, leaving people to think that I had a miserable time in NYC, which was totally not true. I just didn't take the time to blog about the million of happy experiences. Which makes me mad because it's the whole other topic of people making ASSUMPTIONS and judging you...

Okay, I'll stop now.

jenn on August 1, 2005 07:23 PM

Aww, now you're almost making me feel guilty, Drina! You'll find lots to read, there are plenty of blogs out there. We've just been reading each others for years now, sooo.... but we'll still keep in touch, indeed. I"ll post comments and if you want me to, I can even spam your inbox with e-mails. Oh yes. You won't be free of me THAT easily.

Courtney on August 1, 2005 08:18 PM

Wow, my relatives and friends almost never read my blog. I started mine because I wanted to talk to the rest of the world. As you know, I focus a lot on politics and society and have tried to make connections among pro-life liberals.

I wonder sometimes whether I'll reach a point where I feel like I've said everything. You know, just recycling the same old stump speeches about war, capital punishment, abortion, poverty, and unnecessary C-sections over and over again. I don't feel that way yet, but if I thought my writing was getting stale, then I would consider putting my blog out to pasture.

LAmom on August 1, 2005 10:33 PM

I've thought sometimes of starting a blog, but I just don't think I'd have time for it.

From internal exile, Monster from the Id

Monster from the Id on August 3, 2005 01:38 PM

Blogging helps me to stay insane. I live in Cleveland; it's not like I can do much outside the house.

Abrasivist on August 3, 2005 06:34 PM

I all for taking breaks. I myself have been known to take a long hiatus or two. Sometimes blogging gets tough, and it shouldn't be a forced thing.

Monster, this thing really is time consuming!

Drina on August 4, 2005 09:08 PM

i think the problem with keeping in touch with friends via blogging is that (at least for me) it's often one-sided. a lot of my friends and family read my blog, so they know what's (generally) going on with me. the catch is that they don't have blogs, so i don't know what's going on with them. and i don't often blog about my personal life, the part friends and family should care about the most. however, for someone like me who is extremely introverted and not likely to take the first step to call up or email a friend, blogging is much better than not keeping in touch at all.

geeky on August 4, 2005 11:14 PM